The Social Media Support System
Posted by Miz Kp on Jul 27, 2012 in Blog | 10 comments
This past Wednesday, Angel’s dad shared his thoughts on the importance of having a support system. Today, I want to expand on that and explore how social media Web sites can provide support and be a valuable resource for special-needs families.
Parents are logging onto social media Web sites in droves to reach out to other parents for information, to share information, and at times to vent. Here are some ways that parents of children with special needs are using social media:
Support
Parents can post a status on Facebook about a milestone their child reached or about a bad day they are having. We can tweet something that may seem mundane but someone may find it interesting and worth celebrating. Some of us may blog about a topic we are passionate about or share a story about our child that could end up resonating with another parent. We do these things knowing that somewhere out there another parent will get it, celebrate with us, and even empathize.
More Support
Just knowing that someone is going through something similar can be helpful, especially when a parent may not be getting much support at home. Social media allows parents of older and younger children with special needs to interact and learn from each other. Parents can also interact with and learn from adults with various disabilities, including autism. This has been a unique experience for me because I do not personally know any adults on the autism spectrum.
We show support in other ways as well. When a child with autism goes missing, we spread the word like wildfire, praying that someone somewhere has seen that child. When that child is found, we rejoice and breathe a sigh of relief. When a celebrity like 50 Cent or a media personality like Joe Scarborough makes disparaging and unfounded remarks about people with autism we come together and fire back with an intensity rarely seen in other demographics. Like any family, we may have disagreements about a certain issue or topic but this is to be expected when you have so many passionate people sharing their views.
Research
Social media can give parents an outlet to research information on where to find a medical professional or therapist for their child. Parents can ask questions about a specific treatment or intervention and share news articles on findings from researchers regarding autism and other disabilities. Parents can also get first-hand information from other parents on a variety of topics regarding raising a child with special needs. Parent can also use social media get the most recent information on trainings, conferences, and events.
Networking
Many parents use social media to network. We can interact directly with various specialists, therapists, and professionals and get insight into our children’s behavior and how to improve their lives. The value of networking through social media has been very beneficial for me and I am sure that other parents can relate.
Advocacy
Parents like me use social media to advocate for our children and the special-needs community. We share petitions, champion causes, and even fund raise. Some of us use social media to interact with elected officials and give our opinions on a specific legislation that can affect or is affecting the disability community. Even if it is an aide in my senator’s office responding, at least I know somebody read my thoughts on a pressing issue. Parents can interact with various nonprofit organizations through social media and propose ideas for new projects that can help their children.
Fun
Yes, parents of children with special needs like to have fun, too. Sometimes we love to meet others online and chat back and forth about stuff other than our children and their diagnoses. We love them but sometimes we need to unwind. Sometimes we share silly stories that may not be life altering or informative but we know that someone out there read it and thought it was interesting. Even if no one found it interesting, we are okay living with the illusion that it was and that is just fine.
So how do you use social media? How has it helped you as a parent of a child with special needs? If you haven’t used social media in the ways that I have described, I implore you to start now.
Sincerely,
Miz Kp

I am Miz Kp, the creator of Sailing Autistic Seas. My Web site is dedicated to my son "Angel" who is on the autism spectrum.


I use facebook for only family and friends and mostly to show off a cute picture of Nicholas. I’ve been trying to spread autism awareness on my page, but I’m having a really hard time getting people to even “like” the post. I have to say that since joining Twitter, I have received some really great advise from the users. It took me awhile to join Twitter but I’m glad I finally did becaue it is very useful.
Yeah, it can be tough to get people engaged. I just hope that they at least read and share. With 1in88 autism is everywhere. They may as well learn more about it. I agree, Twitter is very useful.
Social media is a great boost to the support system of families with special needs for all the reasons outlined. We have to also remain mindful of protecting our identities. I am therefore trying to fully catch up with the technology. Comments on help in this area would be appreciated.
Treading the fine line between engaging others and maintaining privacy in a social media world is a daily balancing act. Help is coming to get you on board!
Social media has kept me sane, educated me, challenged me and connected me to people who have enriched my life in ways I didn’t even know I needed.
I wrote a little bit here about my fortuitous introduction to the Twittering world – http://goo.gl/YblNu (“Twitter? I hardly knew her.”)
In fact, social media is how I found you, Miz KP, and so glad I did!
Great post!
Thanks so much. Just left a comment on the post that you linked. You are so right I have learned a lot as well. Glad I found you also. Take care.
There are many of us on the other hand who either do not have social media accounts or opened their accounts late and are not familiar with how to use them. I went to an all dad’s meeting and spoke with about 15 dads. I felt like I spoke to 100!
The invite was by word of mouth and I was only exposed to social media only 2 years ago and I still dont know how to send a Twitt! In a case like this when one does not engage in social media, what do you suggest as far as helping those individuals get ahead?
The key with social media is to stay constantly engaged. You can have an account but you have to use it. Sharing articles and ideas with others is helpful as well.
Honestly social media has kept me sane. Don’t know what I would do without it and great to have met you through this support system.
I can certainly relate and I am glad that we met as well.
Thanks for stopping by.